Reflections on a Principles-Focused Evaluation led by Nora F. Murphy

Reflections on a Principles-Focused Evaluation led by Nora F. Murphy

"The Principles method is especially effective because it looks at the heart of the organization — the culture, the passions, the goals— in order to guide the evaluation. New Orleans is a city overflowing with heart, culture, passions, and goals... so what could be a more perfect pair than that!" Katherine Hillman of Flux

Primal Pain

Primal Pain

Last night. Again, the blue lights. This time not a baby, a man. On the ground, surrounded by people in uniforms, people with guns, pale skin catching the blue light. His dark skin shadowed by his hood, by the moonless night, by the dark shadow cast by the car. Yelling orders. Through his wail he cried "Please don't shoot me. I didn't do anything. Please don't shoot me." It was the same wail. Pain made into sound.

Sabbaticals and the Proverbial Pebble

Sabbaticals and the Proverbial Pebble

Most people I know working in giving-spaces, healing-spaces, grant-funded spaces, are stretched so thin in their time, physical abilities, emotional reserves, and spiritual core. There a never-ending demand to do more, people actively asking us to betray our own boundaries, and often not enough money to do what needs to be done. Everyone needs time to rest, reflect, and recharge.

Made of tears

Made of tears

Do you hear that? I will not let you tell me to make myself smaller. I will not make myself less sad, less angry, for you. I will not accept the feelings of guilt you are trying to stir in me. I am going to feel the full love. I am going to feel the full loss. I am going to experience my full self. I am going to know, to own, that I am partially made of tears. 

Big news..

Big news..

I have never been married before and, trust me (I won’t bore you with the details), there are a lot of lonely years and awful dates when you are still unmarried in your early 40’s. But this is also true. It’s worth waiting for the right person. Andy is everything I barely dared to hope for.

my voice

my voice

Okay, that was clear. From me to me. Stop saying yes when I want to say no and vice versa. The icky feeling in the short run will pay off in the long run. Easier said than done BUT something has to change in this new year. I'm sick of overpromising and then living in scarcity mode. No more scarcity mode.