What's love got to do with it?

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Everything. Love has everything to do with everything. I don’t know a single person who doesn’t want to be loved, to know they are lovable, to have people who want to be loved by them.

Often, when I am working with people in educational or human services settings, I have been told, “I love my kids, but don’t tell anyone.” Or, “I hug the young people I work with even though I’m not supposed to.” It’s as though there is a belief that adults can’t love the young people they work with and still maintain health boundaries and relationships. That they can’t hug them without the hug becoming inappropriate.

This, of course, is ludicrous. Many litigious and more generous cultures from around the world and across time have found ways to love the people they work with, young and old.

A recent Urban Review letter from the Editors called out the danger of deficit narratives that make some students, typically black and brown students, seem as though they need our pity but not our love.

The negative connotations associated with the term "urban" contribute to too much deficit dialogue and too much problematic thinking about urban schools, communities, and community members dominating education research. As such, rarely us it that the term urban is associated with the word "love".

If you work for social change, what is the role of love in your work?


Ohito, E. O., Watson, W., Lyiscott, J., & Sealey-Ruiz, Y. (2019). Postscript: Visions of Love in Urban Schooling, or A Love Letter from the Editors.

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